Memory Reconsolidation
Memory reconsolidation is a natural process in the brain that allows deeply held emotional patterns to change — not just be managed.
When something overwhelming happens, the brain stores emotional learning about safety, danger, and how to survive. These learnings are often implicit — they show up as automatic reactions in the body, emotions, or behaviour, even when a person logically knows they are safe.
Memory reconsolidation is the process by which these old emotional learnings can be updated.
How it works
When an emotional memory or emotional pattern is gently triggered and the nervous system has a new, contradictory experience at the same time, the brain becomes briefly open to change. During this window, the original learning can be revised rather than reinforced.
When reconsolidation occurs:
the trigger no longer produces the same reaction
the emotional charge reduces or disappears
the change feels natural, not effortful
This is different from coping strategies, positive thinking, or behavioural control. The goal is not to override the reaction — it’s to resolve the pattern in the brain that creates it. We can do this in a safe and controlled way in therapy.
Why talk-based approaches aren’t always enough
Many trauma-related patterns formed before language, or during moments when the thinking brain went offline. Because of this, insight alone doesn’t always lead to change.
Memory reconsolidation works best when it’s supported by body-based and nervous-system-informed approaches, which allow implicit emotional patterns to be accessed safely — without needing to relive or retell traumatic events in detail. This is why we combine Memory Reconsolidation with Somatic Experiencing techniques to help the body discharge the energy that was stored in the body at the time of the traumatic event, and many cliets feel great long-term relief from their anxiety, overwhelm or other debilitating recurring responses in the mind and body.
What this approach can support
Memory reconsolidation may be helpful for:
trauma and complex trauma
anxiety and panic responses
phobias and triggers
emotional reactivity
shutdown, numbness, or freeze
patterns that feel “stuck” despite understanding them
Each session is paced carefully and tailored to the individual.
What it feels like for clients
People often describe reconsolidation as:
a sense that something has “shifted”
reduced reactivity without effort
feeling calmer in situations that used to be triggering
not needing to consciously manage the issue anymore
How I work with memory reconsolidation
I integrate memory reconsolidation principles with somatic (body-based) approaches, bilateral brain stimulation, parts therapy, and hypnosis. This allows emotional patterns to be accessed gently and safely, especially for people with complex or long-standing trauma.
Sessions focus on present-moment experience rather than analysis, and are always guided by what feels manageable for your system.
A note on safety and expectations
Memory reconsolidation is not about forcing change or “fixing” you. It works by supporting the brain and body to do what they are already capable of — updating outdated thoughts and body responses when the conditions are right.
Everyone’s process is different, and results vary depending on history, support, and readiness.
“Some emotional responses seem like they don’t match the situation, for example you feel overwhelming fear when there is no real threat. This happens because the brain repeats responses it had in the past in new situations - but the old response doesn’t suit the new situation and you can’t control it. The brain makes a prediction about how your body should feel, but the prediction is incorrect. Memory reconsolidation is the process that can update those predictions so old emotional reactions don’t get automatically played out anymore.”